Intensity vs Consistency in Love: Why Age, Brain Science, and Attachment Shape Partner Choice By Arvina Sharma, Psychologist Introduction A common belief suggests that women are naturally future-oriented when choosing a life partner. Yet real-life patterns often appear contradictory. Some women fall deeply in love with partners who are unemployed, unstable, or struggling with addiction—only to experience regret later. Others are firm and clear: they will not consider an unstable partner at all. This raises an important psychological question: If women are future-oriented, why do their partner choices differ so drastically? The answer lies not in judgment or intelligence, but in biology, neuroscience, attachment psychology, and age-related brain development. Two Brain Systems That Govern Love and Choice Human relationships are shaped by two interacting neural systems: 1. The Emotional Bonding System Driven by dopamine and oxytocin, this system: Creates emotional i...
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