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  Understanding Trauma That Doesn’t Look Like Trauma By Arvina Sharma, Psychologist Not all trauma screams. Some trauma whispers. Some trauma smiles politely. Some trauma performs well in school, takes care of everyone, and says, “I’m fine.” This is what I call Quiet Trauma. Quiet Trauma is not caused by overt abuse. It is born in subtle emotional environments where nothing “dramatically bad” happened — yet something essential was consistently missing. It is the trauma of self-erasure. And within the Self-Erasure Trauma Model (SETM), Quiet Trauma forms the psychological foundation of how a child — and later an adult — learns to survive by disappearing. What Is Quiet Trauma? Quiet Trauma develops when a child repeatedly experiences: Emotional unavailability Subtle rejection Chronic invalidation Conditional approval Caregiver overwhelm Role reversal (being the “mature one”) Love that feels earned, not given There may be no hitting. No screaming. No obvi...